So you and your ex have been broken up, but you suddenly have the opportunity to talk to her again. Either you ran into each other, you called her, or better yet, your ex broke down and called you.
Great... but now what do you say?
Talking to your ex is an important part of getting her back, so you'll need to choose every word carefully. But even more important than what you say to your exgirlfriend is what you do around her, and what kind of vibes you put forth after the breakup.
Upset? Depressed? Dying to talk to her? These are bad mindsets to be in, especially when it comes to making post-breakup contact. Women can smell a desperate guy from miles away, and if you're not 100% confident in your approach she's going to mentally call you out on it.
Remember, women don't want a desperate guy. Your girlfriend doesn't want to hear about how much you've missed her, or how miserable you've been since she's gone. Your ex isn't going to go "awwww... that's so cute!" over your semi-pathetic display of loneliness and reflection.
Instead, she's going to be completely turned off by how needy you've suddenly become, and totally grossed out by your dependence upon her.
Your ex girlfriend doesn't want a pet project. She doesn't want a guy who needs her... she wants a guy SHE NEEDS TO HAVE. This is the single most misunderstood aspect of the female psyche, perpetuated by today's continued attempts at feminizing the male gender.
Girls love strength. They want big arms wrapped around them, shielding them from harm. Every girl you've ever dated has wanted the same exact thing: an emotionally tough guy who will protect them.
Strength. Confidence. Control. You need to offer her these types of things if you ever want to get your ex back.
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Knowing the best ways to talk to your ex girlfriend
So what do you say to your ex girlfriend? Practically nothing. You might tell her it's good to see her again, but that's as far as you should go, at least for now. Don't give away your entire hand when you only have to show one of the playing cards, and for God's sake don't break out the waterworks in trying to demonstrate how much you still love her.
Telling your girlfriend how much you've "thought about her" is another bad call. You want her to think about you. For this to happen, it should be almost as if you haven't been thinking of her at all. You want your ex to believe your post-breakup life has been a month-long to the amusement park, and that you haven't even had time to think about the breakup.
Smile. Be happy. Look good, feel great, and exude tons and tons of confidence. These are the things that will make her want you back, not those other traits you've been thinking of showing her.
The logic is simple: Portray a good time, and your ex will want to be a part of that good time. Portray a sad, miserable, waiting-by-the-phone existence, and your girlfriend will run as fast as she can in the opposite direction.