Okay, so you want to know exactly when it's okay to approach your ex girlfriend. And the answer to that, of course, is once she starts showing the bigger signs of wanting you back.
Getting back together requires efficient use of timing. You want to approach your ex when she's most approachable, and leave her in the dust when she's most likely to be lonely.
By identifying the signs she's still crushing on you, you can more effectively plan your best approach. Success or failure often depends on offering up the olive branch at a time when your ex girlfriend is most likely to take it.
Signs and Signals She'll Give Off When She Wants You Back
Below you'll find some of the more common evidence that shows up when your ex is reconsidering the breakup:
Your Ex Starts Calling or Contacting You:
One of the more direct signs your girlfriend might be changing her mind is when she starts initiating contact. This usually comes after you've broken all ties and kept completely isolated from her, also known as the No-Contact phase of the breakup.
When your ex girlfriend is getting in touch with you, it's a great sign of being interested again. It takes a lot for a girl who dumped you to pick up the phone and dial your number, even if she makes up some bullshit excuse like 'I'm calling to get my stuff back'.
A more tentative way your ex will reach out to you might be through email or text-message. This isn't any less of a sign she still likes you however, it only means she's a little less ready to talk to you directly.
No matter how she gets back in touch, it's important that you know how to handle it. Jumping the gun or acting too eager to hear from her can hurt your chances of getting her back.
Learn exactly what you should say to your ex when she does call, so you can be better prepared for it when it happens. And believe me, it will happen.
Your Ex Starts Asking Your Friends About You
The no-contact approach will always make your ex curious... but when she starts asking your friends about you? That's a pretty big sign that she's just about ready to get back together again.
Think of it this way: your ex knows you'll find out that she was asking about you. Your friends are certainly going to tell her. Therefore, it's logical to assume she wants you to know. It's an indirect way of feeling you out, as well as finding out if you're still single and available to her.
Your Ex Girlfriend Gets Affectionate Toward You Again
Maybe you hang out in the same social circles, work together, or maybe she 'showed up' out of the blue just to see you. Either way, when your ex is physically around you again it's a pretty big sign she's looking for some sort of reconciliation.
You'll definitely know it when your
ex starts flirting with you again
And an even bigger sign? When your ex gets affectionate or flirty with you. This is something she would never do if she didn't want you back, unless you were dating the queen of the cocktease.
If you happen to be around your ex, pay close attention to her body language. Does she lean into you when she talks, or is she more standoffish? Does she touch you hand or arm? Does her voice get just a little bit sweeter when she addresses you?
These are all signs of interest. They're done for your benefit, because your ex is thinking of giving your relationship another shot.
You'll know when your ex wants you again, because she'll begin seducing you in much the same way she did when you first started dating. She'll give off the same 'come on' vibes, and the same 'go-ahead' signals.
Again, it's important to take things slow. You can encourage your ex's advances here, but not too much. If you seem too eager to take her back, you blow your chances of doing it on your own terms. This is when getting back together can forge much stronger bonds, and put you in a better position for the future of your relationship.
Your Exgirlfriend Begins Throwing Herself At You Sexually
Let's face facts: when it comes to sex, women are different from men. They treat the physical act of having sex with a lot more significance than men do, which is why an ex girlfriend trying to sleep with you is doing it for mostly emotional - and not purely physical - reasons.
Her panties... the last line of defense
When your ex girlfriend initiates sex it's a pretty big deal for her. She's physically missing you big time, but she's also missing the emotional comfort that comes with being connected, hip to hip, between the sheets.
There's always the rare occasion that your ex wants to sleep with you in a no-strings attached "friends with benefits" type of relationship. For the most part however, an ex girlfriend who's willing to have sex with you after the breakup is probably expecting it to mean something.
In other words, don't take advantage of her sexual needs by banging your ex and walking away. If you really want her back, you'll need to accept the fact that your girlfriend is giving herself to you as a sign of reconciliation... and not just because she was horny that night.
To get her back, you need to both identify AND accept the signs that she still wants you. Some guys might even seek to punish their ex girlfriends at this point for breaking up with them in the first place, and this is not what you want. Punishing your ex will always lead to bitterness and resentment that could poison any future relationship you have together.
Other Ways To Know If Your Ex Girlfriend Wants You Back
These are only some of the more common signals that your ex is still interested in you. There are many others, and some of them are a lot more subtle and difficult to see.
Yet while knowing that she still loves you is a great feeling, sometimes it's hard to get your girlfriend to that point. In these cases, you'll need some help in making your ex view you as a potential boyfriend again, and as someone she'd like to renew a relationship with.
There's one breakup guide dedicated mostly to re-creating that early magic. This is the magic you had when you first started dating; the feelings you had for each other when you and your ex first came together as a couple.
Win Back Love is especially helpful if you're having trouble getting your ex girlfriend to reconnect to you. If she's not recognizing the more emotional aspects of your past relationship, this instantly downloadable guidebook can help bring her mentally and emotionally back to the very beginnings of your relationship once again.