Of all the things you'll miss from your past relationship, sex has to be pretty high up there on the list.
But what if you had the opportunity to sleep with your ex girlfriend, even after the breakup? And what if the arrangement was made in an NSA, or no-strings attached kind of way?
While 99.9% of guys everyone would jump at those opportunities, here's an even better question: could you handle it? Especially if you ended up being one of a few other select guys your ex was actually sleeping with?
Sex is a tremendous part of any relationship, and good sex can go a long way toward putting people back together. Couples break up for lots of reasons, but if the sex is great there's always an underlying sense of possible physical connection, even a very long time after separating.
But when should you have sex after the breakup? At what point during the reconciliation process is it okay to sleep with your exgirlfriend... and when would it be considered too soon?
Breakup Sex: it blows away normal sex
These answers lie in the type of contact you've had with your ex, and how far along you are toward actually getting back together.
In some ways, having sex can be that final big step that puts you back together with your ex. Some girls would even consider you a boyfriend again, after having jumped back into bed with you post-breakup.
However, you also need to be careful of some other scenarios that don't end so well. Because believe it or not, it's not uncommon for an ex girlfriend to actually use you purely for sexual purposes.
In some of these cases, she might still not want the relationship back. This could go against your own expectations, and if you're not emotionally prepared for it, could knock you flat on your ass.
The Truths and Myths About Breakup Sex
Breakup sex can be HOT. There's a forbidden nastiness to it, as you and your ex girlfriend both know you're involved in something that you probably shouldn't be doing.
When you're having sex during the breakup, the intensity is higher as well. You miss each other, physically and emotionally. Putting your bodies back together is a fast way to satisfy your natural and more primal urges, while still enjoying the security of already knowing each other on every personal level.
Sex with your ex girlfriend: nasty, forbidden,
and a high probability for scratchmarks
Breakup sex can also be a little bit angry, and even violent at time. The breakup has you both frustrated, and you're taking those frustrations out on each other in a sexual way.
There's also a dangerous element to sleeping with an ex who may or may not be sleeping with someone else. That adds just one more level of thrill to the fact that, for right now at least, you are the one who physically possesses her.
Finally, sleeping with your ex during the breakup will feel like a sure way to impress her that one final time. If your goal is to get your girlfriend back, you're going to do everything within your power to make that sex the best sex she's ever had.
Every time you have sex could be the last time you hook up. So if you do choose to get back in bed with each other? You'll want to nail your ex's socks off. You'll want to give it to her good enough to make sure she remembers it.
Getting Her Back - Knowing When It's Okay To Have Sex
Having sex with your ex out of the clear blue sky doesn't generally happen, except maybe in movies. Usually, you'll have started talking again, seen each other a few times, and maybe even hung out in a sort of 'trial makeup' or 'second run' scenario.
Reintroducing sex into your relationship is one of the last steps on the road to winning your girlfriend back. It's also extremely important that you get the timing down correctly.
Move too soon, and you could actually piss your ex off. You don't want her thinking you're getting back together just to sleep with her again.
You need to look for the signs that signals that she's really into it, and these include her overall body language as well as emotional cues that will tell you when she's ready to get naked and freaky again.
Never push for sex too soon;
it's always best to let her come to you
The one thing you want to avoid is next-morning regret. If your ex girlfriend wasn't ready to get back in bed with you just yet, she might feel guilty after having done the deed.
This is why you never want to push her into having sex with you, but rather just the opposite.
By being the gentleman and playing a little bit hard to get, you can manipulate your ex's needs so that she makes the call.
If she really does want you, she has to make that first move... and this puts you in the driver's seat later on, because you were never the one who pushed or pressed her to reinitiate that physical relationship.