Truly breaking up is ridiculously hard these days. You can't just walk away anymore; now you have to delete your ex from your phone contacts, email lists, and whatever social networks you've been using to follow and communicate with each other during the course of the relationship.
And so what about Facebook? What about MySpace?
Is it okay to still talk to your ex on these websites, or should you go as far as to completely de-friend your ex girlfriend after the breakup?
And if you don't remove your ex from your friends list, what happens next? Do you still pull up her Facebook page to see what she's doing?
Using Facebook after the breakup;
the same as talking to your ex
Is your ex girlfriend looking at your Facebook or MySpace page to see what you're up to as well?
Stopping the phone calls and emails is all well and good, but Facebook and the rest of these social networks provide a very sticky situation for people who break up.
It seems unnatural enough for two people who talk and communicate every day to suddenly end all contact entirely. Social networking sites and Facebook walls seem innocent enough, don't they?
So can you still do it? Or is it considered breaking the no-contact rule if you're still checking your ex's Facebook page, and maybe stopping in to say hello?
The Hard Truth About Facebooking After a Break Up
Unfortunately for anyone desperate to still make contact, the answer is not what you want to hear. Because no, you should NOT be Facebooking with your ex girlfriend after she breaks up with you... not if you want any legitimate shot of getting her back.
Checking your ex's Facebook or MySpace page is the electronic equivalent of actually stalking her.
I mean, what's the difference? Just because you're not slow-rolling past her house in your car during the late evening hours doesn't mean you're not trying to see everything she does, and everyone she's hanging out with.
Let's face it, you're not stopping by those websites just to 'say hi'. You're prying for whatever information you can get, because right now, you and your girlfriend are broken up.
So if you're still on your exgirlfriend's Facebook or MySpace page? Yes, you're still chasing her. And as long as you're still chasing after your ex, you'll never be in the position of power and control needed to actually get her back.
Using Facebook To Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
Okay, now for some good news. You ready for it?
You CAN use Facebook as a tool to help win your girlfriend back.
The difference here is that you'll be manipulating your Facebook page, while not even checking up on hers at all.
There are things you can do to make your ex jealous, and these can be very much enhanced and added to by the way you handle your own Facebook or MySpace page.
Because no matter how the breakup happened, guess what?
She's still checking up on you...
for all her own reasons
Your girlfriend is still checking up on you.
She's still watching and poking and prodding to see how you've handled the breakup, and to what extent you still want and need her back.
Girls do this out of curiosity, they do it out of boredom, but most of all, they do it out of the need to be loved.
Even though she broke up with you, your ex still wants to feel that you love her. It's nice to be chased, pursued, and obsessed over. It adds to her ego, her confidence, and her security in knowing that all the power and control over the decision she made to end your relationship rests solely with HER.
In knowing that she's still checking up on the things you're doing, there are ways of transforming your own Facebook page into a really great tool for making your girlfriend want you again.
The best techniques for changing your Facebook page after the breakup can by found by checking out Michael Griswold's M3 System.
Totally awesome stuff in there, and fast-working too.