In getting dumped, you'll wonder where all those incredible feelings your girlfriend once had for you seem to have gone.
I mean it just doesn't make sense: One minute she's hanging affectionately off your shoulder, yet right after the breakup your now ex-girlfriend is completely and totally avoiding anything to do with you.
Her feelings quickly fade. She doesn't want to listen to reason. Your girlfriend seems cold and distant toward you, whereas only a few days ago she was warm and loving.
So what gives? Did your ex's feelings suddenly just disappear? Or did she somehow bury them, beneath her now-tough exterior, in order to remain broken up without having to think about you?
Uncovering How Your Girlfriend Really Still Feels About You
Getting these answers is tough, especially now that you're no longer dating. It's not like your girlfriend is going to tell you the truth; she's more likely to hide her true feelings in order to keep you from trying to get her back.
And while working toward getting your girlfriend back? Knowing how she feels is very important. Understanding her overall mindset can determine when you should take action, as well as the best times to sit back and wait for your ex to come toward you.
Don't question your ex's feelings right away.
Initially, your girlfriend is going to be very guarded. She's the one who broke up with you, so it's only natural that she expects you to want her back.
During any contact you make with her (and you shouldn't be making any), she's NOT going to give you a straight answer about how she still might feel.
Later on however, there may be certain undeniable signals that indicate when your ex is thinking about you, or even starting to want you back. Some will be obvious, while other signs will be a lot more subtle.
Why Your Ex Girlfriend Still Loves You (Yes, Even Now)
Let's be honest: women tend to have very deep-seeded feelings and attachments. Just because your girlfriend broke up with you doesn't mean she was able to throw her feelings for you completely away. Because unless you did something particularly terrible, she still has emotional bonds to you that will linger on for a very long time, whether she likes it or not.
When it's time to get back with your ex, you'll be able to use these bonds against her. There are ways of reminding your ex of what you mean to her without even approaching or talking to her at all.
It's these subtle techniques that will get her back. You can't go charging in like a bull and hope to reverse your breakup using brute force. Your ex girlfriend must be finessed into remembering those good times you shared together, and coaxed into re-living those feelings of closeness she once had with you.
You want your girlfriend to chase
you... not the other way around
What most guys don't realize is that you can't convince your ex to take you back. That's like sailing against the wind, and you'll end up going nowhere.
Instead, you need to make your girlfriend think that getting back together was her own idea.
This is the equivalent of tacking with the wind, and using the momentum of your past relationship to drive you through the breakup and into the reconciliation phase of getting back together again.
Is it easy? No. But it's ten times harder if you're taking the wrong approach to winning her back.
Recognizing Signs That Your Ex Still Has Feelings
When your girlfriend still cares for you, you'll know it. Inwardly, you'll feel that those bonds are still there, and eventually, you'll be able to use those connections to get your ex back.
At first however, it's hard to tell. And the main reason it's so hard is because of wishful thinking.
Right now, you're probably looking for ANY little indication that she still loves you. You're combing over everything your ex has said, written, or texted you in the last few days and weeks. Like a detective, you're pouring over the evidence trying to find the truth.
Or, at least, what you think is the truth. Because right now, your heart will try to skew that evidence in your favor. Your mind will play a more logical role, but your heart will keep telling you - beyond all hope or reason - that your ex still loves and needs you.
For now, you need to override your heart and try to think with a straight, clear mind. Any decisions you make based upon false hope are going to really hurt your chances when it comes to winning her back. When it's time to do something, it needs to be tempered with reason. Your actions can't be based solely upon what YOU want, but need to be tailored around whatever will make your ex girlfriend need you again.