Making Your Ex Girlfriend Jealous

Should You Use Jealousy To Get Her Back?

The risks and rewards of making your ex girlfriend jealous

What's the most powerful emotion in the world? That's right, JEALOUSY.

The green monster of envy makes people do obscene things. It causes behaviors people wouldn't normally indulge in. Most of all it provokes an instant reaction, because jealousy isn't something that can easily be ignored.

So if your ex girlfriend has been totally avoiding or ignoring you since the breakup? Employing a little jealousy might seem like a dirty trick, but used correctly it's an effective tool for getting your ex to instantly start paying attention to you again.

Using Jealousy To Get Your Ex Back
Too much jealousy - no good
Too little of it - not effective

Now there's good jealousy and bad jealousy. Natural jealousy and forced jealousy. There's also knowing when to stop and back off a little bit.

Just enough jealousy can drive your girl back into your arms. Too much of it however, can cause her to look at you with anger and disdain. You're taking a gamble in pushing a little, but you never want to push too far.

All in all, you need to be VERY careful when attempting to make your ex jealous. You have to be very subtle, and the timing needs to be taken into consideration.

That said, jealousy is definitely something you can use to help repair your broken relationship. And should you? YES.

Getting her to need you back - Why jealousy works

There's a lot of misconception as to exactly what happens when you make your ex girlfriend feel jealous.

It's not that she envies you to the point where she suddenly wants you back (not initially, anyway), but it's more like jealousy accelerates the rate at which your ex will think about you, miss you, and reconsider her decision to end the relationship.

In the end, that's really what you want. Your main goal here isn't to drive your girlfriend out of her mind with jealous anger toward you. Instead, you want to apply just enough pressure so that she re-focuses on your past relationship, and ultimately, is forced to make a choice between keeping or losing you.

Think of it this way: left alone, your ex is able to move forward and remain single. She'll go out with friends, do new things, and possibly meet other guys who'll want to start dating her.

A non-jealous ex is comfortable, especially if she knows exactly where you are, physically and mentally. This is especially true if you've been begging and pleading to get her back, or calling to let her know you'll "be there for her" if she changes her mind (a cataclysmically bad idea).

Applying jealousy forces your ex girlfriend's attention back to you. It also provides something else very important: the sudden impression she could actually lose you.

Which leads us to a very common universal human principal:

We Always Want The Things We Cannot Have

And the more you can't have something? The more you'll find yourself suddenly dying to get your hands on it.

Jealousy - Forcing your ex girlfriend to make a choice

All throughout your breakup, your ex has realized she can get you back. She's comfortable in knowing her decision is reversible, any time she wants it to be.

Making Your Ex Want You Back
When will your ex girlfriend want you back?
The second she realizes she can't have you.

Yet when you give your ex a reason to be jealous?

Suddenly the safety net is taken away. You've pulled that rug out from under her, and made her do something she's never had to do before: consider a life without you

In short, after the breakup your ex girlfriend doesn't want to lose you right away.

Read that last sentence again, because those final two words are the most important.

Will she eventually move on from dating you? Sure. But right now, while the breakup is still fresh, your ex is more comfortable with knowing you're still within easy reach. It's nice to know you're a one-sided phone call away.

While this is the case, you'll never get your ex back. Until you make her realize she actually could lose you (and lose you for good), your girlfriend has no incentive to undo the breakup.

Ways to Make Your Ex Girlfriend Jealous

Okay, so how do you do it? How can you make your ex feel jealousy if she's not even paying you any attention right now?

Walk Away Happy - Girlfriend broke up with you? NOT a problem. Shrug, give her a last hug goodbye, and then walk away without looking back. Don't worry, don't care, and don't act as if the breakup bothers you for a single second. THIS will make your girlfriend instantly confused, put you in prime position, and lay the perfect groundwork for making her jealous.

Try to stop visualizing your breakup as a permanent thing. When you're obsessed with losing your ex, your thoughts and actions reflect that negativity. Remember that you will get your ex girlfriend back, although it might not happen right away. Knowing that you'll eventually be able to reconnect and start fresh should help you to disconnect a lot easier.

If your breakup happened days or weeks ago, there are still ways of walking away happy. Check out this opening move for letting your ex know you agree with her and are no longer fighting the breakup.

What happens when you're happy is simple: in the blink of an eye, your ex realizes she underestimated your need for her. It shakes her confidence, and kicks a big dent in her ego. And if she thought the relationship was one-sided, she has to reconsider that thought process.

Look and Feel Awesome - Do you really want your ex to be jealous of you? If that's the case, give her something to be jealous of.

Remember, to get your girlfriend in the first place you had to put forth the most attractive YOU possible. The same thing goes for getting her back, which is why the no-contact phase of your breakup is prime-time for a total mental and physical makeover on your part.

Work Out To Get Your Girlfriend Back
Sweat... try it sometime

Get your ass to the gym. Open the door and go outside. Run, jog, lift weights, stomp the treadmill, go tanning, buy new clothing, get a haircut... all of these things will have you feeling and looking a hundred times better than if you were moping around your house staring at old photos of you and your ex girlfriend.

Mentally, the exercise will clear your head. It will allow you to think straight. It will help boost your confidence, and channel positive charisma. Your friends will notice, your family will notice, and eventually, your ex girlfriend will notice too.

You really have to make yourself into something your ex will want back. You can't just give her the same old you - the one she already broke up with - and hope for a different result.

Nothing will get your mind off your breakup faster than a good hard workout. It's a great way of getting out of the house, clearing your head, and making yourself better in every possible way.

Rollerblading
Rollerblading: it's NEVER okay

And remember: all exercise is good exercise, with the exception of one thing: rollerblading.

If you're serious about getting your girlfriend back, never ever go rollerblading. Friends don't let friends rollerblade. In fact, they're required to punch such a friend right in the face.

Now you might think roller-hockey is an exception here, but it's not. If you're going to graduate from dek hockey, go straight to the ice. Stopping in the middle for rollerhockey when you could be kicking ass in ice hockey is just plain stupid.

Get Out and Have a Great Time - Know why your girlfriend dated you in the first place? Because you were fun. You laughed, you made her laugh, you went out, you did cool stuff, and you always had a great time.

Sitting at home will always prolong the breakup. By going out and having a blast, you're sending your ex an unspoken message: I never really needed you. By surrounding yourself with friends, family, and all sorts of fun? You're creating a situation where your ex girlfriend suddenly feels left out.

Your ex might have let go of you, but she doesn't want to see you having fun without her. Your girlfriend wants to think she was a big part of the reasons you were happy, and that you should be unhappy without her. By going out and doing all the things you did (and then some) before you started dating? You're proving that she was less of a factor than she thought she was, and you're making her jealous that she's not a part of that fun.

Start Dating Other Girls - Most guys go totally chicken-shit when their girl breaks up with them, thinking that if they hang around with other women their ex will never want them back. And you know what happens to these guys? Ultimately, they end up alone.

Nothing else on the planet will make your ex jealous faster than seeing you with your arm around another girl. No matter how hard she dumped you, your ex does not want to see that you've totally moved on and left her in the dust.

Making Your ExGirlfriend Jealous
Dating other women... the last thing your ex wants to see

Seeing you with someone else will drive a very unwanted spike of jealousy through your girlfriend's heart. Suddenly you're valuable again. The good times this new girl is having with you? Those were her times, and she'll feel as if they're being stolen away from her.

It doesn't matter that she broke up with you - you weren't supposed to move on without her. You were supposed to sit there all wounded and hurt while she went out and found someone else to occupy her thoughts.

So definitely get back on the horse. See other people, as long as you're into it. Don't force it, and don't set up any "fake" dates just to make your ex jealous. You can do it easily enough without any tricks or games.

For a lot more information on how to grab your ex girlfriend's attention, check out these reversal methods. Many of them you can start using right away.

Remember: making her feel jealousy is only a small part of what you should be doing to get your girlfriend back. By learning as much as possible, you're giving yourself the best possible shot at reconciliation.

 
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