What's the first thing that happened when you girlfriend broke up with you?
No, I'm not talking about what you did. I'm talking about how she reacted.
Was she icy cold? Totally detached? Did she go from being your loving girlfriend one minute to someone completely different - someone you felt you didn't even know anymore - the next?
If so, your girlfriend wasn't replaced by a creepier, bitchier version sometime in the middle of the night. Because although her reactions toward you might seem completely alien and unfamiliar right now, the fact of the matter is that her behavior is pretty typical.
You see, right after any breakup happens there's a phase during which your ex will push you away.
It's not because she doesn't love you or still have feelings, it's because your ex girlfriend feels totally uncomfortable and even weirded out by any sort of contact with you.
Right now, she knows you're sad, hurt, upset and unhappy. She gets that. But your ex also knows that your one goal in life is to talk her out of the breakup.
And right now? She doesn't want to hear anything that you have to say. Right now your ex wants to bury her head in the sand and pretend you no longer exist - like an ostrich trying to hide from an unwanted predator.
So... are you a predator? Or will you just act like one?
That's a huge question, and the answer is important. Because there will come a time when your ex does pull her head from the sand to look around for you. And when that happens, you'll need her to see you in the best possible way.
If she sees you as dangerous, unstable, and even stalkerish? Your ex girlfriend is going to run as fast and as far away from you as possible.
Why Your Girlfriend Buried Her True Feelings For You
Breaking up is a decision. Your girlfriend made this decision without you, and it was a tough thing for her to do.
Yet in order to move forward with the breakup, your girlfriend had to do something else: supress her feelings for you. Because if she didn't, she wouldn't be able to stick to the breakup. Her feelings would overwhelm her, causing her to take you back.
So, how did she do it? How was your girlfriend able to rid herself of all emotional ties and attachments to you, so carelessly and callously shedding the bonds of your past relationship?
The answer to that is easy: SHE HASN'T.
Burying her feelings for you
is easier than facing them
Instead of processing her feelings and dealing with them right now, while things are still fresh, your girlfriend did the next best thing: She dug as deep a hole as she possibly could, and tried to bury those feelings in an effort to make them go away as quickly as possible.
Her hope? That yes, eventually she would think about you again. Eventually she would be forced to process those feelings she still has for you right now.
But by the time that happens, your ex hopes that weeks or even months will have passed. The impact will be dulled by all the waiting, ignoring, and suppressing of her existing emotional bonds for you.
How To Get Your Ex To Experience Those Feelings Again
The road to getting your girlfriend back is paved with many obstacles. The biggest one? YOU.
To win her over, you'll need to do two things. The first one is to stay out of her way immediately after the breakup. By leaving her alone while she has her head in the sand, you're setting the stage for the second part.
Because once your ex does lift her head up and start looking around for you? That's when you'll use these reversal techniques to get her interested in you all over again, as a potential boyfriend.
These methods need to be done in a very subtle, non-commital way, so that your ex doesn't even suspect you're doing anything at all. This is why you'll need to know exactly what you're doing, if you want to succeed.