When your girlfriend suggests looking for more compatible partners, it's a delicate situation. On one hand she's still hanging onto the idea of being with you... but on the other, she might be seriously considering a relationship with another guy.
The first thing to do is NOT panic. Once your girlfriend realizes you're upset, it ratifies her decision. She's getting a genuine reaction out of you, and this is what she's wanted all along.
Watching you squirm might not give her pleasure (unless she's some sick asshole), but it gives your girlfriend a taste of power. It lets her realize, possibly for the first time ever, that you might need her more than she actually needs you.
Man up. Don't cry, and don't pout. Lose the
attitude, and for God's sake lose the pink shirt.
Once again, this reduces your overall value in her eyes. Instead of seeing you as the indestructible pillar of strength you once were, now she sees a chink in your armor. Your girlfriend knows your weak spot: the thought of her being with another guy.
So now think about it: even if you ended up getting back together, how many times would she use this weapon against you over the course of your relationship? How many times would she play this card to get a reaction out of you in the future?
So what should you do? What do you say to your girlfriend when she sits you down and gently explains that she'd like the freedom to start seeing other people?
Well, you give it to her. You give her that freedom, and at the same time you let her know you're giving yourself the same type of freedom.
Why? Because the one thing your girlfriend doesn't want is for you both to start seeing other people.
This is one of those cases where you have to let someone go in order to get them back. And this means letting them go knowing full well that getting YOU back might just be impossible for them.
So essentially, you tell your girlfriend:
"See other people? Yeah, sure. That sounds awesome."
Don't say it sarcastically, and make sure you don't sound bitter. It should be almost as if you've been looking for this 'out' for a long time. As if the relationship has been dragging on you, and her suggestion is like a huge weight has been lifted off your shoulders.
That's when you take her hand, put both of your hands over it, and tell her:
"You're right, there's definitely someone out there who would be better for both of us. Good luck."
And guess what? That's IT. You walk away. You don't look back, and you don't race home to be the first person to change your Facebook status to 'single'.
Instead, you handle things maturely. You break ALL contact, and you don't entertain any type of phone calls, emails, or text-messages from your ex girlfriend. She's suggested seeing other people and you've gone one step further and broken up with her.
This isn't what she wanted or expected. Your girlfriend expected some type of resistance (to show that you still love her), and some type of discussion (so you could potentially talk her out of seeing some other guy). But you did neither. She mentioned she smelled fire, and you took the emergency exit. She looked up, and all she saw was the door slamming shut behind you.
THIS is how you need to handle any potential breakup scenario with your girlfriend. By controlling the situation and maintaining your position, you don't lose any of the power or hold you still had over her during the relationship.
By NOT reacting the way she expects, you're putting your girlfriend in an awkward and opposite situation... one where she doesn't know what to do.
She could go on to potentially see other guys, but she now knows for SURE that you won't be sitting around waiting for her in case things don't work out. In fact, she could end up in a failed rebound relationship, turn to look for you, and find you with a totally new girlfriend.
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