You've probably heard the words 'no contact' a lot by now. So let's talk about what it is, how it works, and why it's so damned effective if executed correctly.
The No-Contact approach to winning your girlfriend back is, simply put, the complete and total withdrawal from anything to do with your ex.
You really have to go balls out here. You can't cheat, and call your ex in a moment of weakness. You can't send her a text-message, and pretend it was innocent or necessary. You need to man up, step forward, and really commit to steering totally clear of your ex girlfriend for a long while.
Think it's gonna be hard? IT IS. But like everything else that takes any effort, it also brings results. Some tips to get you started:
TURN OFF YOUR PHONE. This will stop you from looking at it every five minutes, and keep you from dialing your ex.
UNPLUG YOUR COMPUTER. This will prevent you from checking your ex girlfriend's Facebook page, to see what she's doing without you.
GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. This keeps you from poisoning yourself with pity or desperation, and it gives you a chance to clear out your head.
How about a visual. You see this? →
That's your ex girlfriend NOT getting a text from you.
That's what she looks like checking for new voicemails, and finding nothing.
That's her searching for missed calls and unread messages. Still nothing. Because ever since the breakup, you haven't even bothered with her.
Is she upset? No, but she's confused. She expected to hear from you. She thought you'd fight her on the breakup, but so far it seems like just the opposite.
"Fine", she says. "Screw him if he doesn't care, it's what I want anyway."
But in the back of her mind, there's a nagging voice that's asking her why.
There's something inside her that needs to know when you gave up on the relationship, and what exactly made you unhappy enough that you're not even trying to keep things together.
Are you over the relationship already? Did you find somebody else?
Maybe you had some other girl in mind the whole time, and were just waiting for her to break up with you?
These are the kinds of questions your ex will ask herself when you DON'T call or make contact with her. This type of nagging doubt will consume her thoughts, making your ex girlfriend think about you so much more than if you were still within plain sight or easy reach.