When your girlfriend first breaks up with you, things can change very radically.
Someone you loved and talked to on a daily basis is suddenly now off limits. Calling, texting, or contacting your ex in any way is considered taboo, especially if she made it clear to you that she's looking to move on.
This can be a pretty big shock to you, and some guys just can't handle it. To have someone you loved so deeply begin instantly ignoring you as if you were no longer there... it's the weirdest and most unnatural part of ending a relationship.
To get your ex back, you'll obviously need to contact her. You'll want to do it sooner rather than later, but for obvious reasons that's not such a great idea. You'll definitely need to leave her alone for a while, if you want any chance at a positive response from your ex.
And so time goes on... and your ex hasn't called. She hasn't emailed. She hasn't text-messaged you, or even talked about you to friends or family.
In a big way, it's almost like she's dead to you. The end of your relationship takes on a near funeral-like quality, because someone you loved, kissed, and touched, and talked to on a daily basis is now completely, utterly, and totally out of your reach.
One of the biggest problems you'll face after breaking up is trying to get a foothold back in your ex girlfriend's life. But how do you accomplish that if your girlfriend is ignoring you?
What can you do to get back her attention, and make your ex look at you as a potential boyfriend again?
Reasons Why Your Ex Girlfriend Isn't Responding To You
But hey, hang on a second.
What if I told you your ex girlfriend really is paying attention to you?
What if she were a LOT more interested in you than you even realize, and has been paying even closer attention to you now - since the breakup - than she was while you were still going out together?
The truth of the matter is that SHE IS.
Your ex girlfriend hasn't walked away without a care in the world, and she hasn't ditched you without a second thought. Because you know what?
It only seems that way.
Fact is, your girlfriend will spend a lot of time closely examining every aspect of your breakup. She'll want to know what you did, how you reacted, and how upset you seemed to get over it.
She'll also want to know if you were able to carry on normally, or whether you crumpled into the fetal position and began crying to get her back. Everything you do will interest her, because how you handle the breakup is a big part of how your ex can justify her decision.
Remember: your ex might've broken up with you, but it was a very big decision for her. She wants to know she made the right one, which is why she'll still be interested in what you're doing even after the breakup.
If she wasn't ignoring you then?
She's definitely ignoring you now
If you cry, beg, plead, or chase after her? She knows she made the right move. Only a loser would do those things, and your ex doesn't want to be dating a loser.
Calling your ex, demanding to see her, saying that you have 'something important to tell her'... all of these actions push you further and further down the scale of datability. You can quickly and inadvertantly eliminate yourself from your girlfriend's future dating pool.
Throwing yourself at your girlfriend's mercy after she breaks up with you is always a terrible idea. It takes only a minute for her to lose every last ounce of respect she ever had for you.
And once gone? That respect is almost impossible to get back. You're behind in the count, down on the scoreboard, and working from a really bad spot.
Keep it up, and your ex also makes a pretty forgone conclusion: there's no reason to date some guy who needs me more than I actually need him.