Timing is a critical part of making ex girlfriend contact, and the later hours of the evening are always the best time to reestablish a connection. When enough time has passed and you've both had some room to think things through, a well-placed phone call can really put yourself back in your ex girlfriend's mind.
Getting your ex back requires you to make a series of small connections - little baby steps - without going overboard. Therefore, if you're going to call your ex, you need to keep it short and sweet.
Above all else, you must also have a reason for calling your ex. Even if it's a smaller, less significant one, you should have something to tell her when you do make that connection.
Always have a reason before calling your ex
For example, maybe you noticed her favorite band is coming to town, or one of her favorite movies is coming out next week.
If you were close with her family, you could call to see how her mom was doing or how her brother made out when he went off to college this semester.
If your ex got a promotion, has an upcoming birthday, or had any type of positive thing happen in her life you could call just to say congratulations. Keep the reason small, and keep the conversation short. That combination of things will produce winning results, and is much better than getting into a long, sappy, drawn-out conversation with your ex girlfriend.
Once you're on the phone with her, don't go overboard. Be happy to hear from her, but don't act overjoyed or talk to quickly. S-L-O-W down. Speaking too quickly is the biggest error most guys make during ex girlfriend contact. If you talk too fast you'll come off as extremely nervous, and you don't want that. Play it cool and be confident. And try the following things:
- Stay in control of what you say. Don't stray from the game plan, keep things simple.
- Keep the conversation casual and fun. Ask what she's been up to in general, but don't pry for details.
- Don't tell your ex girlfriend that you "miss her", unless you're saying it back because she said so first.
- Don't tell her you've been "thinking about her" either... you're not trying to scare her away here.
- Let your ex do most of the talking. If she's opening up enough to keep speaking, let her dominate the conversation.
- Don't talk about the break up, your past relationship, or anything that's off limits.
- Get off the phone within 4 to 5 minutes. Make an excuse that you "have to run", even if the conversation is going well.
If you take most or all of the above steps, any talk you have with your ex girlfriend is going to go smoothly. You'll get in and get out of the conversation without a hitch, and you'll have accomplished a major step on the road to getting her back: making first ex girlfriend contact.
This is a critical part of the reconciliation process, and one of the trickiest things to do. And by leaving the conversation early, before she really wanted you to, you actually leave her wanting more. This ensures that the next time you get in touch, she'll be receptive to it. Your ex will even be looking forward to hearing from you again.
You'll never get your ex back unless you have a step by step plan for success. Know what you're going to say before you say it, and be prepared for any type of obstacle your ex might throw your way while trying to get her back.
Signs That Your Ex Wants You To Contact Her
If you play your cards right, you should be able to get your girlfriend to miss you rather quickly after breaking up. At the very least, she should be curious about where you are.
This is why, toward the end of the no contact phase, your exgirlfriend is so receptive to communication. And if there are any links still connecting you as a couple (i.e. common friends, working for the same company, going to school together, etc...), this is where your ex will begin giving you certain 'go-ahead' signals to get back in touch with her.
Spotting these signs of interest is a critical part of the whole reunion process. A one-sided approach to getting her back will never work - instead, you need to get her to want to be back in your life again. This is what will ultimately fix your breakup, because not only will you start dating your ex again, but the new relationship will actually stick.
If you're in one of those relationships where you've broken up and gotten back together multiple times, then you already know how fragile a relationship can be. Your goal in this case should go past the simple act of getting her back, moving on to the more important aspect of your future romance: keeping her.
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